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Stuff You Didn’t Mention

 

Some people walk into your lives and the blessings they leave behind seem to still shine even though there are a thousand miles in between.

The picture above is from my friend Catherine in an email that gave me the title for this post. Whenever I need prayers, I will send out an email to pretty much everyone on my contact list. Some respond and some don’t, but hopefully, all of them pray for me. The first email she sent me contained a photo of two (of four) of her children eating noodles off the floor, and of course, she added a cute explanation for what transpired for them to be eating off the ground.

A bit of honesty here, I didn’t think I would still be in contact with Catherine on any kind of basis. It’s been my experience most people – women in particular – disappear when they marry. I expected no less with Catherine, and yes for a year or two, she did, but she’s the only friend (who is married) who has maintained any kind of connection with me. Her eldest daughter just turned 9 years old. I remember her visiting me when she was pregnant with Lucia, who is just as beautiful just as her mother is.

Catherine is one of those people whose kindness and generosity shines through her heart in everything she does. We first met in 1999, she is from Saskatchewan, one of the prairies provinces in Canada. She moved to the city I live in because she going to university there, and wanted to experience life away from home.

When Catherine graduated from school she spent a year in Taiwan teaching to pay off her student loan, and I think it was a couple of years after she married. A lot has happened for both of us since we first met. She lives in a town called Rocky Mountain House, Alberta, and has two girls and two boys. I don’t see much or phone/email to her much, but when we do connect it doesn’t really matter that so much is in between us

Months earlier this year, Catherine emailed me and asked if it was possible to get together. She was going to a wedding at the beginning of June. Of course, I said yes! She has a wonderful spirit of persistence for people such as myself, who wondered in the beginning – why me?

I don’t take the role of friendship lightly. Even though five years may span between each time we see each other. Catherine still takes the time to include me in life as much as you can when she lives at one end of the country, and I am on the other end. I haven’t been able to visit her as I would like, but there’s a standing invitation that I hope I will be able to take her up on in the future.

 

 

 

 

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How I Found My Superpower

Whenever doing a physical activity in school, the teachers would usually pick two people to choose the teams. I was always left to the last.

YEP

I don’t have a single athletic bone in me.

It just seems that everyone is good at playing sports. They’re not awkward. They don’t almost kick the ball, their foot just slipping past the ball, or the basketball just hits the rim of the hoop, and then is ruled out-of-bounds as it drops out the court.

In elementary and junior high, it was a big deal because you were judged on your Olympic ability in kicking, running, serving, dunking, etc. But on the other hand, I am a fabulous spectator! Math and Gym were not slam-dunks for me. This contributed to my oddity, to being weird because having the naturally athletic gene is what helps with your popularity. But I just felt so out of it, and I still don’t understand the reasoning’s behind playing Ultimate Frisbee, and then afterward at a coffee shop or pub. If you want to socialize, just skip ahead to the pub and order food already!

But I’m not completely without game because I can speed walk!

I’m sure, I would probably monopolize the category of speed walking if they ever created it as an event at the Olympics. They haven’t to my knowledge, so I continue on my own.

So What Is My Superpower?

Often I get caught up in I’m no good, and no one sees me syndrome. But He who sees me remains silent with his hands clasped behind his back even on the most intensive days. When I am left on my own, I do find the ability to allow Him to remind me that it is Him that this is all for. That my days of belonging are over because I belong in and to him. Not that it helps all the time, but if I am reminded of my beginnings, and at some point, I will hopefully gain sight of His position in my life.

Somethings don’t make sense, but sometimes the interconnectedness of relationships between strangers, your friends, family, and enemies don’t make sense either. People are what I want to talk about, the same people who disappoint me can at the same time turn around and show me that they do listen. We’re all flawed and that flows into everything you do. A lot of the time we push away what is important like our feelings, our limitations, and struggles. These are the things we need to be honest about in relationships.

I’m a bona vide introvert, so typically, I spend a lot of time to myself because I feel drained by spending too much time with others. It’s easy to isolate myself because of my past struggle with depression and my peers, but as I was attempting to heal from it, I found or re-discovered that I like connecting with people on a one on one basis or even two to five people, but there’s a catch! When my time is spent conversing with others and is spent in the shallowness of today, I am exhausted. I crave a depth and richness of conversation and connection with another person that is hard to find.

Using my Superpower

Most people have no patience for the deeper things of life. I  have found knowing my personality type has been an encouragement because it shows me what is normal for me. It has shown me who I am and that God really did know what he was doing. Even though sometimes I still struggle, I now know that my perspective isn’t necessarily wrong as I always would assume because others would not acknowledge the way I see things. Introversion and my typing is part of the map that is specific to how I think, see and process the world around me. It’s good, it’s really good. In fact, I have realized that who I am is what most likely kept me out of the popular group that I thought would make my life so much better!